This blog post contains Anna Leese’s honest perspective on life as a freelance musician, parent,and full time carer for her partner, who is terminally ill with Motor Neuron disease.
Writing this blog has allowed me to share the stories of many inspirational people, and I am honoured to have been trusted with the stories and experiences, many of which are highly personal. This one has been the hardest to read and prepare, and I share it with Anna’s permission and in the hope that it will help others whose lives are unusually complex and difficult. Thank you so much for sharing this, Anna.
How many children do you have and how old are they?
I have one son, Matteo, who is 3 and 4 months.
Tell us a bit about your work and how it is structured.
I teach 4-5 days of the week when I am home (not performing out of town). I am a voice tutor at the University of Otago, I teach private voice, and music classes to littlies (all of which I love). Probably 10/15 weekends a year I travel away for orchestral concerts throughout New Zealand and Australia, and sometimes the UK. A trip away for an orchestral concert is usually 2-5 days away. And I perform an average of one opera a year, which means 2 months away from home. I have control over my schedule to a degree. On average I think I probably work 40 hours a week, not including my home duties, raising my son and caring for my sick husband. I do some sort of work every day, and I often work in the evenings after I’ve put my son to bed. I’ve also just enrolled in a DMA, which means my workload is going to change!
Tell us about your work/parenthood balance.
I have my son in care 5 mornings a week while I teach. I get some weekends with him, and two afternoons a week. I am either working or caring for my son, 100% of the time, there is pretty much no downtime. But I have learned a lot about myself doing this, and I’ve become really resilient and also really efficient! I think I’m a better person for having been given these challenges, which means my son will have a kick-arse, hard working mum 🙂
Have you had to turn down opportunities because of being a parent? How did this make you feel?
Absolutely. But it’s becoming less so. My husband is terminally ill, so I need to think of his care as well as my sons’ care when I travel. Unfortunately all Stefano’s family are based in Italy, and they don’t visit us, and both of my siblings live overseas, so my support network is only my mum, which does limit me as most of the care I need has to be paid for,
Toward the end of last year, the stress of caring for Stefano at home began to overwhelm me and he is now in full time care in a rest home. Since there things have been much more settled, and his level of care is now consistent, whether I am away working or at home. Stefano still comes home often to visit, and we see him most days, so I am still one of his primary caregivers.
Do you have a partner, and if so are they also freelance? What effect does this have?
Yes. He is terminally ill with Motor Neuron disease and needs 24/7 care. Stefano used to be a winemaker, a steady job with little travel, which made my performing/travelling life easy. It was going to be the perfect setup, till the S*%t hit the fan.
Do you have regular childcare, and if so, in what form?
Yes. Monday-Friday, 8am-2pm and my mum cares for my son for my short gigs. For operas and local concerts I hire babysitters. This is incredibly costly, and particularly in the case of operas, can eat away at your profit so severely, you end up working for free. Many of my opera singing friends share this same story! There is no assistance for childcare outside of 9-5 in New Zealand.
Have you performed anywhere that made the work/parenthood balance easier?
Yes, Festival opera in Napier, NZ- they were amazing with letting me bring my 9 month baby to rehearsals and I was feeding him at the time. It worked well. My mum came and sat with Matteo just off the set and I came to visit when I had a moment free. At the moment I’m singing with NZ Opera and they’ve helped with car seats and airport pickups with a seats for Matteo- they’ve worked hard to make sure I had the right accommodation as well.
What can promoters/venues/festival organisers do to help freelance artists who are parents?
Be open about mothers having their breastfeeding babies at rehearsals. Allow babies in the rehearsal room.
Help facilitate childcare if there are more than a few children who need to be cared for- if there was a parents/play room set aside at the rehearsal venue so mums can have more contact with their kids that would help. With a change station.
They can give advance warning for all calls and promotional commitments so that babysitters can be arranged well in advance.
Be realistic about what new mums can and can’t achieve, and keep hiring us!!! We often sing better after having a child (I know I am!).
Are there any organisations/venues/festivals etc that you have worked with that are particularly supportive of performers who are parents?
DSO in Dunedin have always been amazing, they let Matteo and also my husband watch rehearsals because they’re unable to come to the show. Auckland Philharmonic and Orchestra Wellington are both wonderful, in fact NZ orchestras in general have done everything they can to help.
Festival Opera were really good.
How did being a freelance musician affect your parental leave?
My parental leave unfortunately didn’t happen because my husband suddenly became ill two weeks before the birth, and was only able to continue working for about a month afterwards- he suddenly lost all strength in his hands. We were forced to go on a benefit for a year or so until I got back on my feet and started back into work properly.
Were you freelance before you had children? If not, what prompted the change?
Yes. Full time. And I taught some private voice students. It was a conscious decision to slow down the long-haul travel, for environmental reasons, but also because I wanted a better, more balanced home life.
Are you part of any online social groups for freelancers/freelance parents?
The Babies and Show Business Facebook group, which is mostly useful for UK things. There is a NZ Opera Chorus facebook group which has been my sole source of finding babysitting and support for my NZ engagements,
If so, do they cater for your line of work?
Yes, particularly the NZ Opera group, which is full of lovely, helpful people, who have found themselves in similar situations and are happy to help.
Anna Leese is a soprano opera singer with an international career. She made her debut at the Royal Opera House, Covent Garden in 2007, as Musetta in Puccini’s La Bohème. Other roles include Ilia in Mozart’s Idomeneo with the Auckland Opera Studio, Female Chorus in Britten’s The Rape of Lucretia, Fiordiligi in Mozart’s Cosi Fan Tutte and Rosalinde in Strauss’s Die Fledermaus, all for the Benjamin Britten Opera School and Juliette in Gounod’s Romeo et Juliette with the British Youth Opera. She has performed the role of Tamiri in Mozart’s Il re Pastore at the Linbury Theatre, Royal Opera House (where she made her debut at age 24) and three Mozart heroines Fiordiligi, Countess Almaviva and Tamiri with the Classical Opera Company.